Some questions to start you thinking...

If you're a daughter:

  • Did your mother's approach to feeding the family inform your own ideas about traditional female roles? 

  • Did cooking with your mother help to develop your creativity, your aesthetics, an appreciation of life’s luxuries, an accommodation to making do with less?

  • Did you learn teamwork, discipline, humor, bad habits?

  • Were family history, politics, or dynamics revealed?

  • Did a particular occasion—a holiday preparation, a newsworthy event, an emotional milestone—lead to mother-daughter bonding, fortified by tomato sauce, kimchi, or herbs de Provence?

  • If your mother couldn't/wouldn't cook, did you figure out why she she was who she was, as you poured hot sauce over her disaster dinners or ordered Szechuan take-out? 

If you're a mother:

  • Have you tried to pass along family heritage by sharing culinary traditions?

  • Did making brownies or biscuits together with your daughter help navigate a truculent teenaged decade?

  • Is your kitchen a place of such warmth and safety that you and your daughter could have a difficult conversation there?

  • If you didn't have much interest or many skills in the kitchen, how did your family get fed on a typical Tuesday dinner or Thursday breakfast?

  • Have you experienced one of life's little full circles by having your daughter cook for you?

  • If you and your daughter have different ideas about clothes, politics, or piercings, do you find common ground about food?

  • Does your family have an immigration story—hilarious, heartwarming, or heartbreaking?

We'd love to help you discover your story. If writing feels unfamiliar or challenging, we're happy to brainstorm, smooth and polish. Let us know: